We cannot erase what we have done or what has happened to us in the past, but holding on to guilt and resentment will hinder emotional and spiritual growth. A negative outlook can lead to anger, hopelessness and eventual relapse.
Instead, approaching each day as a new beginning and a chance to make better choices can foster hope and lead to positive action. Thankfully, there are steps that people can take to consistently incorporate this outlook into their lives.
Sometimes being positive takes work, especially after going through a stressful experience. Try taking an active approach:
Having a healthy morning routine and practicing the steps until they become habit will help you start your day off right with minimal conscious effort:
After all of your responsibilities are met and you are winding down, do some honest self-reflection. Take time to assess your thoughts and actions from the day.
It might help to use a set of questions:
Using the information you gathered from your reflections to set an intention and create a plan for the next day. Make a goal and identify steps that you can take toward reaching it. Even if it is not met, having a goal can help you wake up with a sense of purpose the next morning.
Lastly, remember that everyone makes mistakes, and feelings get hurt. The trick to moving on is to find a lesson and make an effort to avoid repeating what happened. Sometimes it takes conscious effort to be positive; having a set of techniques to overcome pessimism and foster growth will make the process a little easier. Incorporate the techniques above and any that you already use to start each day fresh and focus on making progress.