We cannot erase what we have done or what has happened to us in the past, but holding on to guilt and resentment will hinder emotional and spiritual growth. A negative outlook can lead to anger, hopelessness and eventual relapse.
Instead, approaching each day as a new beginning and a chance to make better choices can foster hope and lead to positive action. Thankfully, there are steps that people can take to consistently incorporate this outlook into their lives.
Develop a Positive Attitude
Sometimes being positive takes work, especially after going through a stressful experience. Try taking an active approach:
- Meditate or pray. Ask for guidance from a higher power.
- Think about what makes you happy. Write a gratitude list.
- Reach out to a friend or other support.
- Use helpful self-talk. Repeat mantras and affirmations.
- Remember that you are the only person who can control your thoughts and actions.
Follow a Morning Routine
Having a healthy morning routine and practicing the steps until they become habit will help you start your day off right with minimal conscious effort:
- Get up when your alarm goes off. Hitting the snooze button will actually make you less productive.
- Eat a balanced breakfast.
- Do a mentally stimulating activity, such as working on a crossword puzzle or reading a daily meditation.
- Get dressed in clothes that are comfortable and make you feel good.
- Praise yourself for getting through your routine with a positive attitude.
Reflect at the End of the Day
After all of your responsibilities are met and you are winding down, do some honest self-reflection. Take time to assess your thoughts and actions from the day.
It might help to use a set of questions:
- Did I help anyone today?
- Did I cause harm to myself or anyone else?
- What did I do well?
- What do I need to work on?
- What were my lessons today?
Make a Plan
Using the information you gathered from your reflections to set an intention and create a plan for the next day. Make a goal and identify steps that you can take toward reaching it. Even if it is not met, having a goal can help you wake up with a sense of purpose the next morning.
Lastly, remember that everyone makes mistakes, and feelings get hurt. The trick to moving on is to find a lesson and make an effort to avoid repeating what happened. Sometimes it takes conscious effort to be positive; having a set of techniques to overcome pessimism and foster growth will make the process a little easier. Incorporate the techniques above and any that you already use to start each day fresh and focus on making progress.